Debutante Lessons: Introductions

"Originally, it meant the young woman was eligible for marriage, and part of the purpose was to display her to eligible bachelors and their families with a view to marriage within a select upper class circle. To become a debutante, a young girl must be a member of family with society connections. Young girls who wish to become a debutante experience social training in manners, character, verbal skills, dancing, literature and fine arts as part of their lives in school and as part of their lives in their social set.It is not possible for all young girls to become a debutante. Some who wish to become a debutante do not have the family social connections. Some do not have the family wealth to participate in the events necessary to become a debutante. For some to become a debutante is not a coronation they desire. They view the act to become a debutante as far removed from their values. To become a debutante requires dedication and perseverance since the process to become a debutante season and its attendant parties can last almost a year.To become a debutante, a family must prepare their daughter for her entry into their society. This requires attention to details in her life that can rule her out of the process to become a debutante. Where she attends school and the other families who send their daughters to her school are important components of the basic requirements to become a debutante. Becoming a debutante announces to the world that a young woman has matured into an eligible young woman capable of taking her place in her parents’ society.To become a debutante, is a highly regarded event. Becoming a debutante and graduating to her rightful position in society, gives such a woman credentials that other society men will notice."

In no way shape or form am I pushing marriage on my 14 month old daughter, but as far as her rearing is concerned, I want her to be more aware of the world we live in and her role in society. I want her to be well rounded, educated, giving, kind, warm, and more importantly, a lady. These were the values that my grandmother's attempted to pass down to me, and now I shall pass them down to Lilly. She shall be the modern debutante, and I will provide her with lessons.

Love,

Mom